Meraki Truism #4 – Intimidation – learn to own it

Meraki Truism #4 – Intimidation

You intimidate people.

You’re intimidating.

People are scared to talk to you.

I’ve heard this my whole life. This puts us in a situation where we think we have to take something off of who we are in order to make other people feel comfortable. Let me say that again – There are people in this world, in your world – right this moment – who want you to take something off of who you are, to lessen yourself, in order for them to feel more comfortable about who they are.

Is it your responsibility to make someone else comfortable? Is it your job to lessen who you are in order to make someone else feel more important? This isn’t a license to be rude. That’s not what this is about. This is about the girls who grind and hustle and are told that their motivation and independence is intimidating.

Say no to that.

This is about girls who are taught at an early age that you want to be good at something, but not too good.

Say no to that. This is about young women who stop raising their hands in class because they don’t get called on, or women who don’t go after the promotion because they don’t possess every skill that might possibly be needed in that position.

Say no to that.

Step 1 – Know yourself. Do an inventory, a serious, thoughtful inventory of the skills and talents you possess.

Step 2 – Identify the gaps.

Step 3 – Fill the gaps.

Step 4 – Stop taking anything off of who you are.

There are always going to be people who try to put their insecurities off on you – don’t pick those up, don’t wear someone else’s insecurities.

You bring certain skills, a unique personality and world view to the table. Don’t let someone else’s insecurities keep you from doing you.

 

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